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Amboi2.....berlawan2 nampaknya kawan kita tu menghapdate blog ye.....anyway, keep up with the good work Esah, wherever tempat foya2 you may be.

Today i browse through suratkhabar BM and tersentap kejap i. Frankly speaking, MG jarang beli BM kecuali bila MM dah habis kat stesen minyak sepelaung dari rumah i tu (dekat rumah mak pak i, bila weekend je, kitaorg ni dididik dgn disogokkan segala neka jenis suratkhabar (cam ko Esah, beli Daily Sport lah, The Sun lah come weekend). Daripada yg berbau serius sampai la ke tabloid. Agaknya kalau ada adikberadik i yg multi lingual tentu TamilNesan or NanYangSIangPau pun masuk. Bila kawin ngan MG, i macam tersentap because come Sunday morning, what??? Ini je???) Anyway, macam saja nak bagi hati i direntap2, one page screaming, Anuar ada aura.....Idak ke i terkedu and luka lama berdarah kembali? FYI, satu bulan i mendambaka adegan2 Anuar Jeng bukak tie, cufflinks segala neka dia. Bila time i nak bayar (thru website) nengok2 tiket dah kena rerelease you!!!! Siapa la yang bongok menguruskan the tickets hari tu??? (me!). So this is something we shan't talk about for a very long time (at least until mamat tu buat konsert lagi).

Then dalam suratkhabar Bintang they were focusing on those people with mental problems/handicaps found in a particular welfare home...tak berbaju and caged or chained like animals. Imagine kan, if the house let's say has 50 inmates, petugasnya less than 10....camna nak buat 24/7 care kan? Don't get me wrong, i bukan menyokong what they are doing, i find it despicable but i think it's the govt yg perlu bertanggung jawab...channel more money, create more posts, create more public awareness supaya tak lah bila ada je family member yg ada mental sickness terus je dump kat satu tempat, tak tengok2 dah and these people are subject to abuse.

Speaking of people with learning disability ni, my exposure to it came quite early in life. Learning disability is a broad, general term...kenkadang tu, tak didiagnose pun betul2 apa silapnya. Esah lebih tau, kan Esah? Anyway, at this kaum kerabat house of mine kat kampung, setiap kali i balik kampung untuk beraya barulah melawat makcik pakcik ni because rumahnya jauh ke dalam. At a corner of the kitchen tepi tingkap, there was this person yang terdampar atas tilam yg ak bersarung. Ada sikit2 bau hancing pun. Tak boleh bersuara...agaknya her many siblings pun forgot that she existed and the only interaction she got was probably when time dia nak makan kut. Setiap kali we all melawat i would ask my mum, what was wrong with her. Apparently she was born normal but demam panas sampai jadi macam tu. Her parents were loaded bukannya takde duit. Now i always wonder why tak dibelikan kerusi roda utk dibawa hirup angin kat luar tu sekali sekala atau kalau tak nak bela sangat gajikan orang untuk bela? (During that time it was pretty easy to get a local maid). Many years later we heard that she had passed on, tanpa disedari oleh her family members. Sad but she clearly was much better off in the other world.

A few years back, a cousin of mine wanted me to recommend a paediatrician to have a look at her nephew. He was 5 but he refused to communicate, limited eye contact and activenya jenis tak makan saman. A few diagnoses came to mind but of course i am no expert so i refered him to someone i know who dealt in paediatric neurology. They came back, i asked what the verdict was? Ooo..the doctor thinks he is autistic, suggested where he can have support but we are not buying it (ni termasuklah my cousin his aunt). The parents thought so because dia tak menepati semua ciri2 autistic child..they were banking on one factor and that was, he would give his parents a hug whenever he was asked to. An 'orang alim' had told the parents that masa dia dalam perut lagi dia selalu kena sampuk. Tsk tsk tsk...it may or may not be the correct diagnosis (autism) but in the meantime the boy is losing out in terms of education - socially, academically etc. It's the stigma of having an 'abnormal' child requiring special attention (i.e. kena regularly jumpa speech therapist, physician, psychiatrist etc.) sebab tu parents in denial kut.

Then, there was this one trainee. She got married masa tengah belajar, soon after that she started to stare into empty space. Taknak betinteraksi dgn orang. Husband inks that dia kena 'buatan orang' (if i may add,ada kelucahan yg i nak kata tapi i'll let it go since this is quite serious topic) because kononnya mak tak setuju depa kahwin. To tangguhkan study, she was required to be seen by an expert, hence a psychiatrist. She was diagnosed as schizophrenic. The problem is walaupun dah lama jugak benda ni berlaku husband still tak boleh terima kenyataan, still cakap yg dia dah OK, dah jumpa 'orang alim' dah. Denial = tak bagi bini ubat = lagi teruk sakit bininya.

On a much cheerful topic, MM baru didatangkan khas oleh MG...what? Si Memek jadi tajuk utama? Bila ditanya samada dia masih bersama Normang, dia hanya tersenyum manja?? And sebab tu lelaki mudah tertawan?Ptuiihhhh! Memek juga cakap yg dia kini senang berkawan dengan Normang because dia bukan laki orang sekarang...yeah la you punya pasal la! Cam takde jantan lain nak orat. Speaking of this, Ok la Normang tu nampak macho, hensem...bebudak muda cam si Memek tu mudahla nak terpikat. What about si penyanyi unsur2 arab and that ustaz??? I rasa kalau dah memang betul bila you orat tu jantan masih laki orang, just be dignified and tak yah cakap banyak2. The least pun cakap la, saya minta maap dah tersuka nak wat camna?? Ni boleh nak menyaman bini or exbini orang tu pulak for meghoyan. Shame on you!

On one last cerita before i go off...a fe years ago, mak i sibuk berkempen mintak derma utk ustaz kat tempat dia ngaji pi sambung masters kat Indo. He's still young, late 20s kut. Sibukla dia berkempen cakap ustaz tu sponsor seniri etc. Sebagai pendidik (cewah) dan jugak because i ni anak mithali (and mak i selalu ingat i paling banyak duit antara adik beradik - mak, org lain pun banyak duit gak tapi depa selalu buat muka susah..haha), i pun menderma. Then, 2 years later mak i bercerita la pasal ada ustaz dia kawin lagi satu kat Indo masatengah belajar and the 1st wife masa jumpa my mum kat masjid peluk my mum and mengalir air matanya. So, Cik Kiah pembela nasib wanita ni pun bertanya, is this the same ustaz yg i ada gak contribute duit belajar dia ni??? A ah, cakap my mum. Whaaattt? Orang suruh pi belajar bukannya kawin. Tu la students jantan ni, senang sangat nak hilang konsentrasi. Bila jadi student je nak bercinta (i'm sure dia cintan cintu ngan 1st wife dia masa student). What happened? Mak i cakap towards the end masa nak siapkan thesis dia, dia selalu study sesama ngan pompuan ni. So.....you guess the rest la kan.

So i said to my mum, if i have the chance to meet him, i'll make sure i stare bermakna kat dia. Amboi! Orang pergi belajar, ni sempat tambah cawangan lagi. Asyik nak bercinta je, camna Melayu nak maju!