Orang laki ni..

I am supposed to be at work today but i'm still not. Took baby X to the dr's this morning because she couldn't stop sneezing since yesterday. I was supposed to be at workplace B...but i'm still too tired. Texted si Baung with instructions to mind the clients with a junior this afternoon. Pas tu i pun zzzzz.

Just done my homework - i.e. replying to all previous comments. Perhaps i'd like to add some more here.

Esah - udah2 le tu...tak habis2 nak suruh aku tinggalkan MG, anak2 and kekucing aku. Kau pun sama je, suka janjikan bulan bintang tapi habuk ceklat pun sampai la ni tak dapat2. Sentap tau!

Ni i nak bercerita sikit berikutan dgn comment si Lina - adakah i tidak julis bila MG bersebut2 pasal ex-gofren dia? (esp. yg Ar$%^&* tu). Well, si Ar^&* was my junior in school, pernah tumpang rumah i one summer and rupa2nya ada bau hancing petai ngan i. Apparently they went out for over a year, apparently also, he broke her heart (agaknya pasal MG is ikan tuna and minah tu godek2 tak sabar nak kahwin - ni version i la), she went off and was match made with someone else and MG was left terpinga2 - ni pun version i because i really didn't know what happened between them. Adakah i tidak julis?? Hmm..tak sepicing pun, even though MG kenkadang saja nak war2kan yg he's gone to see this and that with her etc.....tapi for us ladies, apa yg lebih penting is, lebih lawa ke aku dari minah tu - jawapannya ye (walaupun boleh dibaratkan minah tu lempeng and i pau terlebih yeast), lebih bergayakah aku dari minah tu? (jawapannya masih ye kerana MG pernah terlepas cakap yg bila minah tu pakai mekap, nampak cam ada yg tak kena je. And bila i bermekap nak pi kerja, the most he'd say is that i dah hit midlife crisi. OK la tu kut), dan adakah lebih pandaikah aku?? Oh..sudah semestinya ye..(hehe, bongkak tak tentu pasal). Sooo..kalau minah Ar@#$%^ ni, i tak le julis sangat. I selalu cakap pada MG yg i ni voluptous and vibrant, she pales in comparison.

Tapi kan, suatu masa dulu, masa i mula2 kawin dgn MG...adala satu minah PA ke receptionist ke tah hapa2 tah...asyik nak berfriendly2 ngan laki i. Yg laki i pun cam tak sedar diri dia dah kawin (and baru je pulak tu) selalu nak bangga2 bila minah ni berflirt2 ngan dia, flatter him etc. (jantan kan, pantang kena goda). She told him that walaupun dia dah ada boipren baru tapi dia masih terkilan pasal 'terlepaskan' MG. Body MG bestla, lawala..(a ah, MG dulu Mr July..ha sekarang 3 MR July combine jadi satu..nak lagi tak??). Once MG left his phone at home and this minah called to ask MG to tell the boss yg she's taking EL that day????Hah?? Ko bukan receptionist PA tah hapa2 ke and MG bukan exec ke?? It's like me asking my little Boss to tell my Big boss why i'm still in bed today? Pas tu bila raya and company diaorg ada open house, dia nampak i lari2 tapi bila jantan tu pi ambik food kat buffet table, amboi bukan main lagi dia melayan.
Kalau i appeared jeles semacam, MG lagi syok as if dia tu pujaan ramai..so i buat tak layan je. i pernah tanya, apsal you dah kawin tapi dia masih nak 'pujuk rayu'you lagi? MG cakap, ye la, dia tengah panik tu, umur dah masuk 26 or 27 tapi tak kawin2 lagi. I said, i pun 30 baru kawin tapi idak le sementara tu i ni asyik risau sana sini, melangut nunggu kena pinang. Pi la buat kerja berpaedah, improvekan diri ke..cam pi buat msters ke..(eh silap, dia degree pun takde..hehe..kejam betul mulut Cik Kiah). Then one day minah ni bagi kad kawin and tengok2 her husband to be ada gelaran (cam Cik Kiah) and siap terpampang kat kad. So i said to MG, korang berdua ni sama je...masing2 takde gelaran tu tapi sibuk dekat kad kawin masing2 nak buh gelaran tu kat nama we all (kad kawin i dulu i buh Cik Kiah je as in nama IC), tak malu ke??? Hehehe...sedap hati Cik Kiah. So that was one story.

I think it's important that we women please ourselves first, then baru our partners etc. It's difficult to be happy kalau asyik harapkan approval from the other half. It's also important that we have our own set of friends...idakle kawan kita hanya laki kita je..kalau one day kawan kita tu decide dah taknak berkawan dgn kita lagi camna?? Memang betul, going to the movies with him tu best, boleh perasan cam time2 dating dulu..ataupun pergi makan together je sans anak2 atau pun pi holiday dgn family. But i've done all three without MG and fun jugak and believe me, sometimes we do need a break from our partners.

Here's one cerita about a friend of mine. She went out with this guy when they were in 1st year at uni. She then became my housemate. And obviouslylah jantan tu pun jadi pseudohousemate kitaorg. Bila ajak minah ni keluar ramai2 main bowling or tengok wayang, dia akan cakap boipren dia tak balik lagi...kitaorg cakap takpe la...jom la keluar sama2...eh tak boleh..nanti boipren dia kecik hati. They were joined together practically like naga kepala dua. Then, bila dah jadi pseudohousemate obviously house rules would apply to him as well. So kalau kena tegur kena tegurlah kan. Then si minah akan cakap, Cik Kiah, you jangan tegur si boipren i tu...dia nanti merajuk...Piraa! as if it matterd to me when org tua bangka merajuk. Fast forward 3 years..both dah balik mesia and masing2 kerja. Rent apartment opposite each other. Banyaklah mengumpul harta sepencarian masa tu. Then bila nak kahwin and nak edar kad, the guy insisted that si minah tak boleh jemput any of her male friends! Thank god the girl dah tak berapa buta dah masa tu..so they broke off. Dengar cerita the girl cam anak ayam hilang mak sekejap because selama ni jiwa, raga, kebahgiaan bergantung sangat pada jantan (yg bersikap óver'protective ala2 mamak tu). She just didn't know how to live her own life and have fun with it.

So iktibar dari kisah kawan i tu yg i ikut sampai sekarang. Be your own person first, please myself dulu, then baru i boleh please my partner.

Nak jugak i mencelah kat sini another story yg lagi recent. My colleague yg mulut pok pek ngalahkan Makcik Wok and bossy kat office. But kat rumah makcik tu penat membanting tulang basuh kain laki dan anak2 because washing machine rosak (tak beli baru because ada kat rumah baru yg diaorg belum pindah lagi). Nak hantar dobi laki kata tak bersih because air dobi recycle. Di celah2 timbunan baju kotor, dengar cerita makcik ni telah habis berbelas ribu menguruskan badan, mengempiskan perut kat slimw0rld tah hapa2 tah because laki kata badan dia dah naik. Padahal, she's half the size of me and even though she's lost 5kgs, we couldn't see any difference because she hasn't got that much to start off with! and si jantan melayu terakhir tu telah berjaya memijak self esteem makcik tu, making her feel inadequate (and thus pelik bila kat opis) but..kalau dia tu maintain takpe! Ni boroi!!! tsk tsk tsk! Where's justice in this??